Friends or Family?

Sometimes, I wish there wasn't a choice to be made here. Like it takes a lot of effort to accommodate both and in this stage of my life, no matter how harsh it sounds, family takes a back seat. I have no intentions of hurting their feelings but how do I spread my wings when the same people chain me? I know they're still the people who raised me and of course, I'll be grateful till I'm old to them but it's like I'm living at a bubble where "I make my own decisions" but I don't. It's so frustrating being given freedom but still getting trampled if I use it. How are we all going to learn if you don't let me go?